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PEBBLE


A simple workshop formula to help look at moving from negative to positive thoughts.

Never in mankind's history has everyone been so connected on the planet and yet it's still a playground of lonely grown ups posting constantly on Social Media and bullying trolls on Twitter. It is fun to escape, but when it affects the "real" fun part of life, which is actually living, then it starts to look more like a negative addictive behaviour.

This is at core how we should look at motivation, focus, initiative and creativity in finding solutions and problem solving in business and life. Most companies traditionally used team building which generally involved a day out getting drunk after briefly listening to someone who had overcome a rare disease and was trying to sell you their book.

Basically how do the kids in the playground play nice and together? I believe it starts more with motivating the individual who can then feel worth and pride in themselves, which then allows them to better work in team and even community. We are naturally sharing and communal beings, but we need to make sure as individuals we have the self belief and confidence to be successful in that team.

As we grow up we forget who we are and what we want, or it gets distorted. This then leads to a kind of un-purposeful drifting. You only don't get what you want in life, because you don't really know what you want. A bit of soul searching always helps get us back on track.

Quantum science has already paved the way for us to better understand how it all works here. You observe and you create. We observe, we change things at a sub atomic particle level. Perhaps with more focus we can change more. Certainly, we can change our perspective and therefore the experience that we have of life. It's just that our negative subconscious can and does often lead the way.

People often say, "Oh this doesn't work. I have visualised for years and nothing has manifested ". Well, I would argue that you need to go to gym everyday, and change your diet to see any results. The same is true for trying to manifest what you want in life, and even then we are guided gently by God and his angels, as what some people want is not always, World Peace. And if it's Jennifer Lopez or Brad Pitt you want, it also doesn't work like that.

My main pre-occupation in this area is to observe those negative thought patterns, which no longer serve us as fight or flight coping mechanisms or as warning bells. And to look at ways to re-condition the mind into a positive place. The negative thoughts can remain, but are not as important, and will gradually fade. We then have a different perspective. Thus attracting the more positive elements and even better health into your life.

Most negative thought patterns are simply learnt responses about ourselves that impose a negative self image. For example. "I am overweight, everyone thinks I am overweight, I must be overweight, I will continue to be overweight". When change, is simply a thought away and of course taking some consistent action towards the desired goal.

There is so much written around this subject in the guise of laws of attraction, re-training what we associate things with, spiritual stuff, even changing your behaviour to change your mind patterns.

We even become cluttered when trying to address a way to look at the clutter of negative "default" thinking. I have tried to simplify here for my blog, www.quantummeetspirit.com, what I have learnt by experience and studied over a very long period and been very lucky to have had a great deal of divine help from God and a football team of angels. The result is genuinely successfully overcoming extreme addiction, alcoholism, even smoking. And have reduced massively all the negative thinking which drives most people back into addictive behaviours or habits. And of course moving into a much more abundant, healthy and successful life on all fronts. The desire to fall back into a negative pattern of thinking or lifestyle is simply not there, as I replaced it with the desire to actually enjoy life for real, and not in escape mode! Here is a simple acronym to help keep you focused.

PEBBLE

PROUD.

Presents the past. Be PROUD of what you have done in the past, of who you are up until now. Pride always has a negative connotation. Pride before a fall. The difference is how you see yourself, in relation to others. if you want to feel better, because someone else is worse, it won't work. There is always someone better or worse than you. I am suggesting you look at your self view as regards the past in a positive way. It is more about self respect than vanity. More simply put, having the feeling of good about your past. This will crushes feelings of shame and guilt which are so disabling to many people. And in relation to what other people think, it also dissipates how you see those negative opinions. The phrase to die of shame literally means that. So many people take their lives because of this crippling self-image and of what other people think.

So, Proud of the the negative stuff??? Be proud that you have indeed overcome it, sought forgiveness if necessary and have learnt from it. This is the first element of re-inforcing positive self image.

You can't love until you love yourself. We are told to obliterate “self” to find peace. Maybe negative self, yes, but as we live here on earth we are in human form and our positive self is the beautiful gift of life and what reflects who we truly are as spirit, which should never be negated, but celebrated.

And to emphasis further, Pride and self love, not in a vain way. All the people taking selfies, generally don't love themselves but need affirmation ironically from "others" with their "selfies". Rather look at your past with more of a deep self-respect, and that you did everything you were supposed to. You tried your best. You have had success and failure and you are at Peace. Serenity if you like.

EXCITED.

Be excited for the future. Why worry for tomorrow, you are alive and tomorrow holds another day. This is entirely in our perspective. Of course we are anxious, stressed about tomorrow. Financial reasons, maybe relationship, job insecurity. The question is why? Whatever happens will happen anyway. Be excited that you can handle it and that it will be... exciting. We all look to the "future" as a desired result, which by definition continually evades us. When we do "get there" or succeed, we want more, as what we have is not enough. It is simply the nature of being human. We strive for better things and keep expanding in our thoughts and ambitions. Remember we are in control and we are guided by a powerful God, We craft today what comes tomorrow by being ready for it. But be ready for the unexpected. The point is to know as we move forward, life changes, and as we change too. It's okay to be nervous about that, but let that emotion be excitement in stead of anxiety.

BE GRATEFUL for positive

BE GRATEFUL for negative

Take stock of when you do arrive at each goal. This represents the present. Gratitude. Be grateful for the positive and the be grateful for the so called negative.

There is no failure in the present. We move, we learn, we are grateful.

Of course in the real world we get annoyed with people, things not going how we planned. If it doesn't go well, then we are either being guided to a different path or we need to look at taking a different approach to the existing path. How brilliant is that, we have “negative emotions” to guide us from the wrong path and the wrong people, but we don't need to dwell on those emotions.

Sometimes things do go well and and we enjoy other people. So be grateful for that, and attract more of that. We are so quick to rush to the next event, we don't take time to be grateful for the awesome things that just happened today.

LET GO

Let go, let God. When things really get out of control, the despairing moments. Then it's time to hand over to the CEO of the game of life GOD.

To understand and allow his presence in your life. This comes down to the old saying of faith and action. We need to take control, but also understand that there is a much bigger plan, higher force at work.

The thing with this is that people feel that letting go means giving up.

It's not at all. Neither does it mean try even harder. If we try so hard that we burn out, it means we are striving in a frame of mind that is thinking I have to be super driven or I will fail. I have to try really hard. The thing here is that if you work so blisteringly hard, then somewhere in your psyche is a feeling that you will fail if you don't. It's good to try hard, but also to know and acknowledge that with your effort is God. (Or the "universe", collective consciousness, higher power, depending how you frame your spiritual belief system. I say that as the concept of God is not always a tangible thing for some people. But just begin with trying accept the concept of a spiritual plane from where all matter comes is the first step, even for some quantum scientists.) And It's not giving up or going easy, it's a quiet confidence or knowing that God has your back when you are in the ring.

If you fall, pick your self up and try again. Maybe differently. Be excited in the lessons not down trodden or angry or even fearful that you think you have been abandoned. We are each just one pebble on the beach but never alone. There is always a bigger picture. A bigger picture in what we can do and achieve, how we connect and change our life and other lives for the better. We don't have to suffer to gain, unless we think that's how it works.

It's all in your perspective.

ENJOY

Just enjoy. Life is short and yet it is also so very very long. So the experience should be fun. The illusion of fun is generally guided by the various negative escape pods of addictive behaviour, the need for more and more. Jump on the roller coaster for sure, but to stay in an “escaped” mode of life is a waste of life. One of my big regrets, in addiction, for a long time was having wasted a lot of time in my life. I spent more time regretting the time lost than the actual time lost. How insane is that? Having said that, the time has been turned around just in the notion that there is always time. We are infinite beings, so whether you are 22, 42 or 82, you are still here today, so enjoy. 22 worried about the future, 42 worried about the past, 82 worried is all over soon. It's still happening now and we exist before this life and after it, so why worry at all. Just enjoy now.

"Miracles" or the previously impossible is possible when you shift your perspective.

Thomas Fairfoot. Author of "Gladiators of light" and Comedian.

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